This morning I was thinking, he is taking such a long time to move out, even though he says he wants to move out. If he doesn't get out, I have to kick him out...
Which brings me to the subject of him being kicked out of the community house many years ago when I met him. He was asked to leave the community house immediately and he had no money, nothing to survive on. When he told me this story, I thought wow, why would a house of compassion lack compassion for one of their own by kicking him out.
NOW, it all makes sense! He is probably taking far too long, and living rent free in a house where he no longer wants to be a part of!
He is doing the exact same thing here in our house!
God. Now everything seems so clear.
The stories I hear obviously are from his perspective. The poor him. But of course there is the other side. Where he never gets things done on time, he procrastinates, he uses people and resources for his own gains, he doesn't see other people's point of view, he is selfish and self focused and only thinking of how it will benefit him and never about how it will affect other people. He would of course argue to say that he does, but it is all self serving.
Exactly like what is happening in our house. Months ago, he told our daughter who was 8 then that he was leaving. Was it really necessary to put a child through this? Now our daughter don't take him seriously, disrespects him and talks to him in a way that she will never to me.
I feel sick in my stomach. I feel like I've been living with lies all this time.....all of these mind blindness and his aspergers ways, it is very toxic for relationships. All kinds of relationships. Unless of course if they were long distance.
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