Gosh, I could wring his neck

Had a row. Trying to tell him that his actions and not addressing the emotional needs of our daughter is causing problems. And that he must not minimize her experience. He goes in further to minimize it and not addressing her concerns with her, and yet again he goes on to invalidate her feelings!!! When I told him that he needs help so that he can be a more effective father and if he continues to 'harm' our daughter he will not get visitation rights unless supervised. He turns it around and says I'm a bully, 

Can you believe that??? It is exasperating. I really want him out of our lives and have minimal contact as much as possible. I'm so angry now I have all kinds of names I want to call him.