Pages

Friday, 8 November 2013

I'd rather just be friends

Ok, so I've heard this line many times in our marriage. And he threatened this again yesterday after 'needing space' for about 3 days. I left him be, and went on with my life. It was painful though.

Yesterday he said he rather we remain as friends. I told him that he cannot just make a decision like this in his own about our marriage without first discussing it! Then he told me the reasons why he felt hurt and then accusing me of saying things I have never said about him. And I told him that. I think at that moment it dawned on him that I was speaking the truth. All the 'criticisms' he felt I said about him were in his own head. Because it was really how he felt about himself. Sigh. I felt tired. Emotionally tired to deal with things like these constantly. But I have learned that I have to be very careful and learn to have a good sense of humour about it.

By night, we are back to our usual selves. He was nice, sweet and warm again. We sat and had a drink together and just chatted. It was fun again.

Such is the emotionally roller coaster being an aspie's wife. 

No comments:

Post a Comment