He is undiagnosed and I haven't told him yet I know he has aspergers

So I am in a situation where I know he's an aspie, but I haven't told him anything. I do not think he knows he is one. And I don't know if I will tell him because he will deny it and we would probably have a big row because he would say it is my narrow perspective of how I see him.

I do not think I am in a good position here. But learning to manage this without his knowledge is better at the moment than letting him in on the fact that he has Asperger's syndrome. I do think he is intelligent, and he may suspect that he's an aspie. But if I were the person telling him, he will be super defensive.

My best strateg at the moment is to let things be. And give myself time to learn and read more about this, so I learn how to manage it.

I still need a therapist. Someone to talk to about this. I know the right therapist will show. I have to be patient.

It has been a good day so far. No major meltdown or threats. Though he was quick tempered with our daughter and over reacting in several situations. I remained calm and took over the situation.