Sensitivity Or Insensitivity

I have often found it odd that with most people in his life, including his parents and family and friends, he seems very sensitive to his needs. But when it comes to us, it is a different story….

"He is over sensitive about his own feelings, and too insensitive about my feelings". I've read this line over and over again in forums and in other aspie's wife's blogs. 

And sometimes my aspie's actions and words would border on cruelty. It really hurts when this happens.

Other times, he is loving and warm when he is in a good mood.

We just had a 'discussion' because we had a row the other day, this was before it hit home for me that he is an aspie. So for days, he avoided me, he said he needed space. And even his mannerism was typical aspie. As he walked past me, we made sure we would not touch, as if I had a disease. It hurt my feelings.

Anyway, we will have another discussion later tonight and hopefully it is not going to be gentle.