I just got this ebook Living With An Aspergers Partner by Mark Huttenlocker. I am enjoying it. Some really good insights, and it is the first book I have read that describes my husband very well in terms of sexual connection.
Most books say that Aspies do not enjoying sexual connection. But this is not true for my aspie. In fact, at times I feel he likes it too much.
In this ebook, the author talks about the aspie's immaturity when it comes to sexuality, which is much like an adolescent. This was always how I felt about my husband! I feel like he is a teen when it comes to sex. And the act is very much separate from his emotions. In the early stage of our relationship, I could not help but feel used. Like he was only using me for sex and there was no emotional connection, which was a big turn off for me. So, I avoided having sex with him and I was always looking for an excuse not to have sex with him. At times I even dreaded it. This ebook is giving me an insight and I realise now that it is his AS, and that I should not take his actions as such personally!
I can't describe how liberating it is to know this in the ebook. Reading through other books, I began to have doubts if my suspicion about my husband having AS was just my imagination because almost resources seem to indicate that aspies avoid sex. But my husband was just the complete opposite. I even thought maybe I have AS because I was trying to avoid sex!
How twisted and confusing life can be living with an aspie.
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